Breaking the Mold: Jesus, Gender + Equality

Let's dive right into the thick of it: societal norms and gender expectations. We live in a world where pink is for girls, blue is for boys, and the kitchen is a woman's domain. But these stereotypes are not just outdated - they’re a roadblock to social equality. Now, before you roll your eyes and think, "Here we go, another lecture," let me introduce you to a surprising ally in this conversation: Jesus. Yes, you read that right.

The Invisible Chains

From the moment we’re born, we’re wrapped in these invisible chains called “gender norms.” Boys are typically handed toy trucks and action figures, while girls get dolls and tea sets. As we grow older, these expectations become more rigid: women are expected to be nurturing and domestic, men to be strong and stoic. These norms dictate not just our personal lives but seep into our professional spaces, limiting opportunities and reinforcing inequality. 

Think about it: how many times have you heard a woman being praised for being "nurturing" and a man for being "assertive"? These labels aren’t just words; they shape our identities and, ultimately, our future. This concept is known as "labeling theory" in psychology, which describes how labels affect our self-identity, behaviors, and how others interact with and treat us. They contribute to the gender pay gap, unequal representation in leadership roles, and a host of other social inequities.

A Biblical Perspective: Mary and Martha

Now, let’s bring in a bit of biblical wisdom to shake things up. In Luke 10:41-42, we find the story of Mary and Martha. Jesus visits their home, and while Martha is bustling about, preparing a meal, Mary chooses to sit at Jesus’s feet, listening to His teachings. Martha, understandably frustrated, asks Jesus to tell Mary to help her. But Jesus responds, "Martha, Martha, you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed - or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her."

Breaking Down the Scene

This isn’t just a key story about sibling dynamics; it’s a revolutionary moment that flips societal norms on their head. In a culture where women were expected to be in the kitchen, Jesus praises Mary for choosing to engage in a theological convo—a role traditionally reserved for men.

By validating Mary’s choice, Jesus subtly and indirectly, but powerfully nonetheless, challenges the gender norms of His time. He highlights the importance of personal agency and the value of intellectual and spiritual passions over merely meeting societal expectations.

Bringing it to the Present 

So, what can we learn from this ancient story? For starters, it’s a reminder that societal norms are not divine commandments. If you feel limited or restricted by others’ expectations - it’s okay to question and possibly dismantle. Jesus’s acceptance of Mary’s choice to sit with the boys rather than conform to traditional gender roles is a clear pass for us to do the same.

We must encourage and empower individuals to pursue their passions and callings, irrespective of gender. This means advocating for women in leadership, challenging stereotypes in our everyday interactions, and promoting policies that support gender equality in all spheres of life.

Let’s be real: dismantling deeply ingrained societal norms isn’t going to happen overnight. But every small step counts. Start by examining your own biases. Challenge yourself to see beyond your stereotypes. Support those who break the mold, whether they’re aspiring CEOs, scientists, or stay-at-home dads.

Remember, the story of Mary and Martha teaches us that it’s not about where we’re expected to be, but where we choose to be. By making choices that align with who we were created to be and encouraging others to do the same, we can chip away at the man-made structures of inequality.

So, the next time someone tells you to stay in your lane, just think of Mary, sitting at the feet of Jesus, breaking all the rules - and just smile.